Mums make most decisions, fathers have little choice?

My husband said this to me last night - that really, mums make most of the decisions regarding children, and that fathers have very little say. I disagreed, and said that everything we'd decided for our daughter, we'd decided together. He said, 'but if I'd told you I disagreed with feeding, and wanted you to formula feed, would you have done it?' - to which I said, well unless there was a valid reason then no, as it's what is clearly best for her. He then said about dummies/pacifiers - we'd disagreed about this when she was born (she is now a year) - I said I didn't want to use one as she didn't need it, coud damage teeth, slow down speech, would drop out and need to be replaced at night etc He went out and bought one anyway, and would put it in her mouth whenever she made a peep when he was watching her. I refused to use it as he has never ever got up at night, so the way I saw it - if I was the one getting up at night, then I should decide about the dummy/pacifier at night as I was the one getting up to put it back in so he sees it that I made the decision about that. He then used the example of smacking, which he knows I strongly disagree and before we had our daughter, he said he disagreed with it too. He has now decided that he agrees with it, and said that if our daughter has a tantrum when she is a little older, he won't hesitate to smack her. Or, if she falls over, and cries for what he feels is too long, then he will smack her and tell her to be quiet. Same for if she won't eat a meal, he says he will smack her. I said if he treated her like that, then i would leave him - to which he said, 'well that just proves it has to be your way or no way.' Do you agree with him, do you think mums get to make all the decisions and dads have to go along with it? I don't see that me saying I'd leave if he beat her as unreasonable, but he sees it as controlling and blackmail! What do you think?